A guided accountability group & community
Keeping the promises to ourselves
Making small sustainable changes, one step at a time
You’ve made applaudable efforts to stick to your goals or routines, but you never quite stay consistent or see the progress you were hoping for.
You may have noticed your longing to pick up the guitar that you’ve abandoned for years, but it remains a permanent decor fixture in your home.
You should be making time for a daily yoga practice, but your mat is collecting dust in the corner. You don’t understand how all of your peers keep it up so easily.
You know it’s necessary to reduce your carb intake, but the flaky buttery croissant beckons your name at the bakery every time.
It’s just too hard!
When you know what you’re supposed to do, the whys, the how-tos, and refuse to take action…
That internal war with yourself is called…
You’ve become the master of perfectly real & reasonable excuses,
but what if your everyday life could better reflect your intentions?
Change is not supposed to be perfect or linear
Be patient & at peace with your own pace
Understand why you make the choices you do
Identify your values and true priorities
Minimize the compare & despair
Accept your starting point, limitations, and privileges
Celebrate your own growth
Learn when and how to expand your capacity for more
What if you could…
Welcome to DirtyWork
Nobody likes it! It can be muddy, vulnerable, and hard. You’d rather skip this part and get straight to the happy ending. But as they say, the only way out is through.
DirtyWork is a group program that uses spiritual and practical tools to help the discipline challenged person go from feeling defeated and disappointed in themselves to compassionately showing up and cultivating meaningful habits within the support of a community.
Hello, I’m Nicole.
When I set out to heal my physical body outside of western medicine, I would watch other people on the same path with a twinge of envy. I would observe their perfectly curated days of supplement schedules, food selections, and self care treatments… all while showing up as a dedicated friend, parent, or business owner. They were transforming their lives and getting results.
Meanwhile, it seemed like I was only operating at 50% comparatively. I was trying to emulate what they were doing. I was often healer hopping hopeful they would have the solution that would finally give me my transformation, but I would leave with a sense of disillusionment or anticlimactic satisfaction. The number of items required to reach “healed” status seemed unattainable, and the comparisonitis was driving me further into perfectionism, avoidance, and collapse.
I kept thinking, “what’s wrong with me that I can’t do it as well as everyone else?” “What if I don’t want to give up caffeine?” “I’m still making some changes, isn’t that enough?” “It’s just easier to give up.”
A fellow human on the never ending journey of self inquiry
Eventually, I came to observe that many of the success stories I watched from afar involved an unwavering commitment to themselves and a good dose of hard.ass.work.
That didn’t mean these people were miserable, forceful, or born with some gene for no sweat perseverance.
But, it did mean they were willing to show up for themselves and set aside their discomfort. They also rested in the cradle of a community and didn’t do it alone.
WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING
DirtyWork is a 12-week small intimate group.
Each weekly meeting will begin with a short teaching of
tips & tricks for nurturing your commitments, group discussion to share and connect, and a joint meditation process to elevate each other’s visions.
HERE’S WHAT’S INCLUDED
Community: A group of peers to hold space for you, cheer you on, and remind you of your magnificence.
Knowledge: Weekly group calls that review strategies & skills to reinforce your positive behaviors and efforts. We’ll contemplate concepts that bring perspective to your current situation.
Guided Experiences: The processes of intention setting, collective focus, and somatic shifts will bring you further into awareness & activation towards your goal.
Daily support: A group chat to use for check-ins, sharing the ups & downs, and advice.
Personalized attention: You’ll receive 3 private coaching sessions to customize your experience, track your progress, and tend to your deeper healing.
Energy Work:
- You’ll get to choose a specialized session in PSYCH-K, Heart-Centered Hypnotherapy, or Family Constellations to help illuminate & integrate a shadow part of your subconscious which could be preventing you from making progress on your goals.
- The field of the group and focused love on each member amplifies your intentions, subtle body energy, and ability to receive.
I don’t know!
We humans like certainty.
I know lots of these programs make promises. I, too, get captivated by the lure of how big and fulfilling these dreams can be if we get the results.
Who will have the answer you’ve been looking for?
You.
It’s always you.
Some of you will have profound changes, and for others it will be the beginning of your unfolding and discovery.
I can’t tell you if you’ll get what you’re hoping for, but you’ll certainly have the opportunity to learn about yourself, connect meaningfully with others, and be a participant in your prayers.
It can be deeply uncomfortable to confront resistance and to acknowledge how we may unintentionally create problems for ourselves, but this program is designed to make that process as gentle and accepting as possible.
But is this really going to make a difference?
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RADICAL REFLECTION
This is where we get really honest about what we’re choosing and why, what’s getting in the way, and the underbelly of what reinforces our stuckness. We identify pain we’re trying to avoid by stopping & starting, procrastinating, and giving up prematurely. We identify our values based on what our behavior shows us (not what we think it is) and the thoughts and beliefs that prevent progress.
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RADICAL RESPONSIBILITY
We construct a realistic and individualized approach to growing your habit or commitment. We differentiate between our opposition and intuition, our willpower and the nervous system. We manage expectations, start small, and practice applying action. We process the emotion and grief of letting go that often comes along with change. We learn to fail forward, redefine success, and adjust accordingly.
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RADICAL RELATING
We learn to respond to ourselves in new ways. We meet mistakes with understanding and kindness. When we choose against ourselves, we repair the relationship to our inner child who is trying to get a need met. We mature our way into caring for ourselves by becoming the parent within. We reclaim what we’ve rejected by actively receiving the love and encouragement from our group members and embracing our existence with life affirming behaviors.
You are worth the effort
And if you can’t feel that for yourself yet, I know you can feel it for others.
What if the missing piece to your healing is not another expert, but a group?
We underestimate the importance and influence of connection in our daily fulfillment and bodily health.
We’re not wired to thrive on our own.
When you join a care web, the nature of reciprocity shows that the supporting of others in turn teaches you to care for yourself.
MORE LOVE NOTES
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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Group calls will be 1.5 hours per week.
Any assignments or exercises between meetings will vary based on your own personal schedule. Individual coaching time with Nicole will be a total of 2.5 hours over three months. -
The weekly group calls are tentatively scheduled for Thursdays at 11:30 EST. Once accepted into the program, we ask that you consider call times as required, as this is how you’ll get the most benefit out of the program. If you can’t attend, a recording will be available.
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This is a common and universal concern. When entering a small group, we’re taking the chance of letting ourselves be seen. This can be a vulnerable experience, because it scratches the fear of rejection. We don’t have to like everybody, but kindness and respect are expected.
This is meant to be an inclusive and supportive space. While I don’t believe in cancel culture, I do believe in emotional safety and restorative justice. If community guidelines are violated, steps will be taken to repair and preserve the purpose of the group. -
This group is meant to be a landing place for you to bring focus and direction to your life. This is not a group with a strict system or educational model.
It’s recommended that you have a foundational knowledge of personal insight, how to self-regulate, and spiritual practice (e.g. meditation). If you have questions, I’m available for clarification. -
The cost of the program is $250 per month (total $750). There are no refunds upon completion of the program. If you want or need to exit the program prematurely, you will not be charged for the remainder of the program. Any time that has passed in the program is not eligible for a refund.
Get Curious, Creative, & Collaborative
We can befriend our resistance by getting curious about its origin story. The ways it’s trying to help us. We can then collaborate with it to create a new reality for ourselves.
Let DirtyWork be the designated space you go for the tender maintenance of your heart.
As we connect to ourselves and each other, we bring more love into each action towards our goals.